Make Your Goals Realistic and Change the Way You live.

This month I wanted to take some time and focus on a little self-care.  I used to think that self-care was not something I deserved and rarely did I take the time to slow down and heal myself.  This month I wanted to focus on some self-love and will be posting the whole month of April on way’s to make changes that will positively influence our lives.

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #41 

“Vision without action is a daydream.  Action without vision is a nightmare.”  Japanese Proverb

The first focus this month is on goals.  Goals are great because they take us to another place.  We don’t have to feel like we are stuck if we have goals to work towards.  Life is always throwing curve balls, and goals are there to catch those curve balls and get us closer to where we want to be.

This month take some time to track your goals.  These goals can be significant, or they can be small tack them and write them down.  Post notes to remind you of what you are working on and what you want in the end.  Remember to be honest with yourself, and if you don’t hit that goal, you want to quit.  Pick up where you left off and keep going.

Know Your Strength and Believe in Yourself Even When the World Doesn’t.

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #41

Know and believe in yourself, and what others think won’t disturb you. 

 

“You are worthy of all the love in the world” Couples and love quotes

“See colors in life”

“People should fall in love with their eyes closed”  Andy Warhol

“What makes you different make you beautiful”

” If you find someone you love in your life, then hang on to that love.” Princess Diana

“Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid of standing still.” Chinese Proverb

“Self-respect permeates every aspect of your life.”  Joe Clark

“Never forget how wildly capable you are”

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” Maya Angelou

 

 

The Art of Trying Something New and Exploring What Interest You.

Are you a person who likes to learn new things or do you cringe at the thought of even trying?  I have had to get a grip on learning new things and putting myself out in the world, and from personal experience, it has done the best things for me and my life.

I have always been shy, and my self-esteem has lingered but making myself go out and do something out of the ordinary has made me take a look at what makes me the happiest. Learning new things can be scary but once you take the dive and there is no going back the personal growth you get in return is well worth the hassle. Here are some ways to take the plunge into your adventure, you’ll thank me later.

Explore the uncomfortable.

Being uncomfortable is never fun, but sometimes we do our best in awkward situations.  This is where your strength comes from because you have to go out and do something unfamiliar to you and you have to overcome the want to run away from it.  Embrace being uncomfortable.

Once you are uncomfortable, get past your fears.

Fear is an obstacle, and you are the one that has to overcome this obstacle.  Fear holds us back and letting go of fear is most of the battle.  Know that you can and will be able to do whatever you put your mind to, and that fear is the evil villain holding you back.

Don’t care what others think.

This is a hard one to accomplish, and it took me many years to make this a realization.  Caring about what others think just keeps you in a box and does not allow you to have your freedom.  If someone has an opinion great, but that should never hold you back from doing something great.

I didn’t know.

Imagine all the things you could do that you didn’t know if you would not have tried.  How crazy would it be to take a look at your life and realize that there was so much more that could have been done and you chose not to explore your interests?

Learning is growing.

Every time we learn we grow.  Never stop learning in your life.  That is what life is all about is taking these experiences and learning everything we can from them.  Learning is what makes our lives worth living.

Be brave.

It doesn’t matter how big or small the fear is overcoming; this emotion is building bravery.  You don’t have to be a superhero to be brave and powerful.  Know your worth and make those changes and wear your courage on your sleeve.

Life is to short to not explore those interests.  

5 Ways to be Prepared so You Can Reach Your Goals

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #34
There is no substitution for a genuine lack of preparation.

When you set out to achieve a goal do you fly by the seat of your pants or do you take the time to prepare and visualize what you want to achieve? Developing yourself to get what you want out of life takes discipline and work. It is not for the faint of heart, and often we can wish we were somewhere in life and without preparing to make it to that point that is where we find a that we get stuck. Instead of wishful thinking here are five ways to prepare yourself so that you can achieve your goals.

1. Practice Mindfulness
I have just recently begun doing this as I have found that I have a pretty full schedule. I am a very busy lady and have just added going back to school to my already active lifestyle. Being able to meditate 10 to 15 minutes a day has helped me get the things done that I need to without feeling anxiety and the stress of the heavy schedule that I run for myself. Meditation helps you to slow down and get in touch with yourself on an intense level. It clears the mind and enables you to focus on what needs to be done. Being able to meditate helps the body heal and de-stress.

2. Let go of what can not be controlled.
Being able to let go has been a hard one for me to do in the past, but I have tried to let things go if it can not be controlled. Not only will this bring extra stress into your life but you are completely wasting time on something that can not change. It takes away from your focus on what you are trying to attain.

3. Visualize what you want to have happen.
I am a visual person. I learn by visualizing, and I work even harder when I can envision what I want to achieve. Being able to see what you want to will motivate you to work harder, and you will feel accomplished when you have completed the goal. Vision boards are a great way to keep the vision of what you want alive.

4. Act as if you already attained your goal.
If you are always dreaming of your goal and not acting on it, the target won’t happen. If you put your mindset into you have already achieved this then you are held to certain accountability. Tell yourself today I am going to do this as if the goal you have wanted to reach you have already mastered. Mentally preparing yourself not to fail will keep you focused on what needs to get done.

5. Get rid of the excuses.
Excuses are crutches, and they don’t help they hinder. If I am working on a fitness goal and I am continually finding a reason not to exercise I will never get what I want. Quit telling yourself that you can’t do your goal because of this or that. Sometimes we make excuses because we are afraid that we won’t reach our goal. Making excuses for yourself is self-sabotage and know that you got what it takes to conquer.

Preparing yourself to accomplish your goals is not an easy thing. You need to be aware of yourself and make yourself mentally for the work that needs to be done. Don’t focus on things that can’t be changed only focus on the things that will help you move forward. Vision is key to making things happen. Mentally telling yourself, you are already there hold you accountable for your actions and get rid of the fear and excuses and slay your way to what you want.

How to Make a Habit of Being Grateful in Everyday Life

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #23

They will be grateful that you cared enough to make it.

I feel like being grateful does not come quickly. I feel like you have to learn a few things to appreciate what being grateful is like. I only learned the true meaning of this word a few years ago when I was battling one of my life’s most significant storms, and my gratitude for what I had was what was holding me together. Before my struggle, I was pretty carefree and did not take the time to recognize the things that were in my life that I was lucky to have. I wish that I would have learned this lesson way before I had hit rock bottom, but there is always a time and place for lessons especially those that involve life. Here are some techniques that I have learned to be grateful and keep gratitude in my daily life so that I don’t take what I have for granted.

1. Commit to Being Grateful

When you commit, you are taking the time to take part in the activity, and it will hold you accountable to finish. Taking the time to write down what you are grateful for will help you to stop and think about these things in your life. Taking the time to stop, write it down, and look at these things gives you time to focus and appreciate them for what they are. Writing what you are grateful for is also putting your priorities in perspective and if you are feeling down about what is happening at this point in your life pull out your list to give you a gratitude reminder.
When I journal I sit and try to focus on one thing that I am grateful for in my life. I can be thankful for anything whether it is being in good health or sunshine whatever it is I take the time to write down how it makes me feel and why I am grateful for this.

2. Keep a Gratitude Journal

Lots of people love to journal. I consider my blog a journal and love to write about all my life lesson’s here.
Many times keeping a journal can help you achieve goals that you would like to accomplish in your life. Writing a recorded document will also keep your memories in a unique spot, and you can always reminisce. Writing is also an excellent way to relieve stress. Putting your feelings on paper is an excellent way to get whatever is inside out in a healthy manner. If you are looking to start a journal for recording your gratitude this Minimalism Journal from Amazon is very affordable and come in a variety of nice bright colors.

 

 

3. Slow Down to Acknowledge What it is You Grateful For.

Life is fast-paced, and it is time that you slow down and focus on the things that make you grateful. Slowing down lets you enjoy life’s little blessings. Taking each day at a time lets us become more aware and appreciative of the things we have encountered. I genuinely think that slowing things down makes us more aware of those around us and we then began to be better toward one another. There is nothing better for the soul than the genuine feeling of gratitude, and we want to go out in the world and do better. I experienced this a 14 years ago. I lived the majority of my life not knowing how to be grateful and taking life for granted up until I had my oldest son. Parker was born a month early, and I will say he did not come into this world easily. I was experiencing severe hypertension, and unfortunately, we had the earlier delivery. Even with an early birth, I was not worried my doctor told me these things happen and it will be fine. That was until I had delivered him. I held him for maybe a minute, and they rushed him off without any explanation. It wasn’t until the next morning that I found out our son was barely breathing and had caught a staph infection that was causing his lungs to backfire on him. We immediately flew flight for life to a Children’s Hospital where we lived for over a month, and the first year was filled with ER visits and another flight for life after getting RSV. That first year of Parker’s experience taught me a lot about life’s little blessings and that I should enjoy and appreciate every moment of every day. I woke up that day and realized that there was more to life than what I initially thought and this baby boy showed me a way to never take anything for granted. I am proud to say that after his first year of life Parker is now 14 and is a perfectly healthy teenager. If anything has given me the tools to be grateful, it has been my kids. They teach me the most, and I am genuinely thankful for them.

 

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I have compiled a list of 30 things to write about for the things to be grateful for that you can write about in your journal one for each day. I suggest if you can to write on each subject 30 minutes a day that way it gives you an adequate time to slow down and appreciate each one. I challenge you to take a 30-day Gratitude Challenge and slow down a little to focus on the things that you may not typically recognize. I can attest to learning the lesson of being grateful and how it can make your life seem better than you realize. Enjoy this challenge and let me know how it worked for you.

30-Day Gratitude Writing Challenge
1. Good Health
2. Your Family
3. Your pets
4. Your friends
5. Where you live
6. The Weather
7. A hobby you enjoy
8. Your neighbors
9. Your Job
10. Your values
11. You knowledge
12. What you have eaten today
13. Where you sleep
14. The ability to do what you want
15. Your Freedom
16. Your Life Experiences
17. Your Failures
18. Your necessities such as water and electricity
19. What you have learned from others
20. The Holidays
21. The stars at night
22. Your favorite place
23. Your favorite childhood memory
24. The weekend
25. Nature
26. Your Talents
27. For the little things
28. Your body
29. Your abilities
30. The challenges you face