Make Your Goals Realistic and Change the Way You live.

This month I wanted to take some time and focus on a little self-care.  I used to think that self-care was not something I deserved and rarely did I take the time to slow down and heal myself.  This month I wanted to focus on some self-love and will be posting the whole month of April on way’s to make changes that will positively influence our lives.

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #41 

“Vision without action is a daydream.  Action without vision is a nightmare.”  Japanese Proverb

The first focus this month is on goals.  Goals are great because they take us to another place.  We don’t have to feel like we are stuck if we have goals to work towards.  Life is always throwing curve balls, and goals are there to catch those curve balls and get us closer to where we want to be.

This month take some time to track your goals.  These goals can be significant, or they can be small tack them and write them down.  Post notes to remind you of what you are working on and what you want in the end.  Remember to be honest with yourself, and if you don’t hit that goal, you want to quit.  Pick up where you left off and keep going.

Know Your Strength and Believe in Yourself Even When the World Doesn’t.

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #41

Know and believe in yourself, and what others think won’t disturb you. 

 

“You are worthy of all the love in the world” Couples and love quotes

“See colors in life”

“People should fall in love with their eyes closed”  Andy Warhol

“What makes you different make you beautiful”

” If you find someone you love in your life, then hang on to that love.” Princess Diana

“Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid of standing still.” Chinese Proverb

“Self-respect permeates every aspect of your life.”  Joe Clark

“Never forget how wildly capable you are”

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” Maya Angelou

 

 

The Art of Trying Something New and Exploring What Interest You.

Are you a person who likes to learn new things or do you cringe at the thought of even trying?  I have had to get a grip on learning new things and putting myself out in the world, and from personal experience, it has done the best things for me and my life.

I have always been shy, and my self-esteem has lingered but making myself go out and do something out of the ordinary has made me take a look at what makes me the happiest. Learning new things can be scary but once you take the dive and there is no going back the personal growth you get in return is well worth the hassle. Here are some ways to take the plunge into your adventure, you’ll thank me later.

Explore the uncomfortable.

Being uncomfortable is never fun, but sometimes we do our best in awkward situations.  This is where your strength comes from because you have to go out and do something unfamiliar to you and you have to overcome the want to run away from it.  Embrace being uncomfortable.

Once you are uncomfortable, get past your fears.

Fear is an obstacle, and you are the one that has to overcome this obstacle.  Fear holds us back and letting go of fear is most of the battle.  Know that you can and will be able to do whatever you put your mind to, and that fear is the evil villain holding you back.

Don’t care what others think.

This is a hard one to accomplish, and it took me many years to make this a realization.  Caring about what others think just keeps you in a box and does not allow you to have your freedom.  If someone has an opinion great, but that should never hold you back from doing something great.

I didn’t know.

Imagine all the things you could do that you didn’t know if you would not have tried.  How crazy would it be to take a look at your life and realize that there was so much more that could have been done and you chose not to explore your interests?

Learning is growing.

Every time we learn we grow.  Never stop learning in your life.  That is what life is all about is taking these experiences and learning everything we can from them.  Learning is what makes our lives worth living.

Be brave.

It doesn’t matter how big or small the fear is overcoming; this emotion is building bravery.  You don’t have to be a superhero to be brave and powerful.  Know your worth and make those changes and wear your courage on your sleeve.

Life is to short to not explore those interests.  

Keep Your Cool 100% Better with These 6 Steps

We have all been in a situation where we feel as though we will have a massive volcanic meltdown. Unfortunately, there are times that we actually do explode and may not behave or say these things we should. These times are tricky and it is always best to take the higher road when dealing with opposition. Try these 6 steps the next time you feel like you are about to blow your top.

1.  Breathe
When was the last time you took a nice long slow inhale and a nice slow exhale? Not only will breathing relax your last nerves giving yourself some time to breathe will improve your health overall. An exercise I practice is to breathe in through the nose nice and slow for 4 seconds and out for seven seconds through the mouth. I can feel my body calm down and it gives me time to think about what just happened.

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2. Time Out isn’t Just for Kids
Timeouts are awesome when you find your self in a confrontation. Sometimes you just need a break from the situation to think through what just happened and the best way to deal with the problem. Taking timeouts will save you in many situations and yes there will be times that this might not be an option but if you can do your best to step away and let yourself cool down.

3. Go to a Happy Place
Along with a timeout make sure to go to a place that brings you happiness. This can be any place like a park or maybe even your favorite little shop. Just give yourself time to reevaluate the situation. Happy environments bring happy energy.

4. If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say Don’t Say it at All
This is a hard one especially for me. I have had to really try and practice this very valuable lesson. Words hurt and can cause so much more turmoil than if you were never to speak, to begin with. Make sure to think about what you say and choose your words wisely.

5. People Are Human And so Are You
We are all humans and we all make mistakes. If you find yourself dealing with a situation that makes you react in a way that is not most pleasing make sure to apologize for your part. Own it and move forward knowing that this is a valuable lesson for the future. If someone has wronged you and did not handle their situation like they should make sure to forgive them. This helps you by not holding toxic resentment and it helps them by knowing that they can learn from their mistake and move on making better choices in the future.

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6. Go For a Walk
Walks are wonderful things. They give you fresh air and exercise which is fantastic for the body. Walks can give you the time to think about what is important to you and help you make good judgments. The next time you find yourself going out of control walk out the door and soak in some fresh air and burn off some of that steam.

Life and interactions are not always easy. There are many times in our lives we find ourselves dealing with unpleasant situations. Instead of doing or saying something we will have to apologize for or regret later take some time and know that by doing this you are saving yourself and others from unnecessary distress.

5 Ways to Slay a Bad Day

Tired of having a bad day. Learn ways to get through the day and win in the end.

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #36
Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but sometimes playing a poor hand well.

Regretful days come and they go. Unfortunately, when they do come they can create an unsettling amount of negativity in our daily lives. Instead of sulking the day away here are five ways to slay that bad day.

1. Get Physical
There are tons of reasons to go out and get some exercise and stress is a very good reason to go out and do some physical activity. Go for a walk outside, or go punch out your aggression at a kickboxing class. Either way, you will feel so much better afterward. Not only should your body get some exercise but you can also calm the mind with a relaxing yoga and meditation session. Being able to stop the chaos and reset will help you get through the day so that you can be your best for the next.

2. Write Those Sorrows Away
Writing is therapy. I know because I do tons of it and I find it a great way to release what I need to get off my chest. A good exercise to practice is if I am having trouble with a situation or a person I take some time and write what I am feeling. Not only does this get it off my mind and the anger and frustration are no longer building up writing with emotion can achieve great works or ideas that I might not have had before.

3. Friends
Friends are there to help when help is needed. Go get some coffee or have a long conversation on the phone. Surrounding yourself with positive people will help take your mind off the stuff that is frustrating you and give you a reason to be thankful.

4. Cry it out
Crying is great. If anyone tells you it isn’t obviously has never experienced a fabulous crying session before. Crying helps release feelings that can hold you back in life and you should never be ashamed to cry.

5. Get Some zzz’s
Rest is key to healing and if you are out constantly battling the day how in the world do you ever expect to heal. Bad days happen to keep us in check so that we will take a break and rest our bodies. Who knows after a good nights sleep you may have a brilliant solution to your problem.

Life is unexpected and no matter what card we are dealt we should always be able to take these days in stride and learn from our bad days.

 

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