How to Unplug and Give Your Mind and Body a New Freedom.

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #43


Such a simple thing to do but for so many of us it is impossible.  Remember the days before tons of technology. Many times we find ourselves indulged in the newest game or checking our Instagram and facebook status on the daily.  Technology is a great tool but we need to find that healthy and happy balance so that we don’t become computer zombies.  The next time you find yourself needed a technology detox here are a few ways to reawaken your body and your mind.

1. Create a nightly ritual

Nightly rituals are fantastic.  Take some time doing something other than looking at a screen.  Read a book that is so good you can’t possibly put it down.  Find some time for some light yoga practices or meditation.  Doing this right before bed can give you the best sleep of your life.  Start a journal and write about your day and what you have experienced.  If there is some stress writing it out on paper can help in dealing and will also help you get a better night sleep.

2. Learn a new hobby or skill.

Learn something new and have fun.  Whether it’s taking a class or take the time to practice something that you have been meaning to work on, doing this broadens your horizons.  Doing this helps you grow and can help move you forward into the future.

3. Exercise

Physical activity does a body and the mind well.  We are always so sedentary when we are dealing with technology and to be able to go out and get in some exercise keeps us healthy.

4. Spend time with those you love.

Spend time with family and friends.  They miss you and would love to be able to have your attention.  Go outside together for a walk or play a board game.  Go back to old school and enjoy each other’s company.

There are so many ways to get yourself unplugged.  Pick a day and renew your senses and relationships.  The good thing about technology is that it is always around tomorrow.  Remember life is to short to be plugged in all the time.

What to do With Your Goals When the Climb Never Seems to End

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #42

“Giving up on your goal because of one set back is like slashing your other three tires because you have one flat.”

Not being able to crush those goals rings true in so many ways.  I recently have been working extremely hard on my body.  I want to lose a little more weight and keep my body in great shape.  I have been battling this most of my adult life, and as I get older, I know how important it is to be healthy. So I work hard to give my body the best by eating healthy and working out.  I am not losing weight to fit into the bikini for summer. I want to lose weight because I have had some heart challenges. The last seven years has been my wake up call, and I am trying my best to take care of myself.

I have hit some excellent goals and have managed to lose 25 pounds in the last five years very slowly but have kept all the weight off.  I am stronger than I have ever been even in my most active years.  I am happy where I am going, but I could lose ten more pounds to hit goal.  Being able to beat this goal has been a struggle to get those last 10, and I keep working my hardest.  I feel good and of course, look like I am perfectly healthy but if I lose ten more my numbers and heart would be doing great.  It is one of my biggest fears that my body won’t stay strong and I could end up in serious trouble.  I know that if I keep working and keep going that one day I am going to make this goal.  I am not a quitter and no I won’t settle so I am picking up my self by the bootstraps rather than sulk I am finding new ways to get to where I want to be.

Are there times you feel that you have tried everything and nothing is working out.  No matter how hard you are working to reach that goal it either isn’t budging, or you find yourself falling behind.  Here are some ways to stay strong and not give in to the slippery slope when your goals don’t budge.

Start Slow
Make sure the goal that you want to attain isn’t going to overpower you at the beginning. Goals should start small and then work your way up the ladder. If you set them too high and it doesn’t work out the way you want it to you will be disappointed.

Don’t Meet Others Expectations
The only important person in setting your goals is you and don’t let anyone tell you that you are not hitting the mark. You can have a support system but make sure that is what they are there to do is support. Don’t sabotage yourself with those that don’t want you to succeed.

Be Happy With The Little Things.
If you reach a micro goal, celebrate it and know that you are getting closer to the bigger picture. The best things in life are not just handed over, and there will be lots of work to do so make sure to celebrate all the little successes along the way.

Don’t Lose Sight of What Matters
If you miss your goal, don’t give up. Realize that the minor setback is not the end of the world and re-evaluate what the big picture is, and keep going. You have come so far, and sometimes we work so hard, and it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere, and we want to quit altogether. When this happens, make sure to take some time to look at your options and evaluate what you are going to do next to make it happen.

Keep Track of What You Have Done
The best way to keep track is to write it down. Buy a nice notebook and keep track of the things you have accomplished and what is next on the list. keeping track will motivate you and show you all the progress you have made if you feel like your sinking.

Goals don’t happen overnight, and they are not meant to be easy. Take time to reflect on what you have done and how important it is that you even chose to work towards something. Know that you can and will keep climbing that mountain till you reach the top.



Know Your Strength and Believe in Yourself Even When the World Doesn’t.

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #41

Know and believe in yourself, and what others think won’t disturb you. 


“You are worthy of all the love in the world” Couples and love quotes

“See colors in life”

“People should fall in love with their eyes closed”  Andy Warhol

“What makes you different make you beautiful”

” If you find someone you love in your life, then hang on to that love.” Princess Diana

“Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid of standing still.” Chinese Proverb

“Self-respect permeates every aspect of your life.”  Joe Clark

“Never forget how wildly capable you are”

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” Maya Angelou



The Art of Trying Something New and Exploring What Interest You.

Are you a person who likes to learn new things or do you cringe at the thought of even trying?  I have had to get a grip on learning new things and putting myself out in the world, and from personal experience, it has done the best things for me and my life.

I have always been shy, and my self-esteem has lingered but making myself go out and do something out of the ordinary has made me take a look at what makes me the happiest. Learning new things can be scary but once you take the dive and there is no going back the personal growth you get in return is well worth the hassle. Here are some ways to take the plunge into your adventure, you’ll thank me later.

Explore the uncomfortable.

Being uncomfortable is never fun, but sometimes we do our best in awkward situations.  This is where your strength comes from because you have to go out and do something unfamiliar to you and you have to overcome the want to run away from it.  Embrace being uncomfortable.

Once you are uncomfortable, get past your fears.

Fear is an obstacle, and you are the one that has to overcome this obstacle.  Fear holds us back and letting go of fear is most of the battle.  Know that you can and will be able to do whatever you put your mind to, and that fear is the evil villain holding you back.

Don’t care what others think.

This is a hard one to accomplish, and it took me many years to make this a realization.  Caring about what others think just keeps you in a box and does not allow you to have your freedom.  If someone has an opinion great, but that should never hold you back from doing something great.

I didn’t know.

Imagine all the things you could do that you didn’t know if you would not have tried.  How crazy would it be to take a look at your life and realize that there was so much more that could have been done and you chose not to explore your interests?

Learning is growing.

Every time we learn we grow.  Never stop learning in your life.  That is what life is all about is taking these experiences and learning everything we can from them.  Learning is what makes our lives worth living.

Be brave.

It doesn’t matter how big or small the fear is overcoming; this emotion is building bravery.  You don’t have to be a superhero to be brave and powerful.  Know your worth and make those changes and wear your courage on your sleeve.

Life is to short to not explore those interests.  

Do You Believe in Yourself Enough When Other’s Don’t and Follow Your Heart?

Believing in yourself is scary.  It means that you don’t care what others think and that you have the strength to overcome opposition.  That can be a hard thing to master, and when you do finally believe in yourself you can be free from the world, you knew that was holding you down.

Keep on Keep on.