What to do With Your Goals When the Climb Never Seems to End

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #42

“Giving up on your goal because of one set back is like slashing your other three tires because you have one flat.”  Askideas.com

Not being able to crush those goals rings true in so many ways.  I recently have been working extremely hard on my body.  I want to lose a little more weight and keep my body in great shape.  I have been battling this most of my adult life, and as I get older, I know how important it is to be healthy. So I work hard to give my body the best by eating healthy and working out.  I am not losing weight to fit into the bikini for summer. I want to lose weight because I have had some heart challenges. The last seven years has been my wake up call, and I am trying my best to take care of myself.

I have hit some excellent goals and have managed to lose 25 pounds in the last five years very slowly but have kept all the weight off.  I am stronger than I have ever been even in my most active years.  I am happy where I am going, but I could lose ten more pounds to hit goal.  Being able to beat this goal has been a struggle to get those last 10, and I keep working my hardest.  I feel good and of course, look like I am perfectly healthy but if I lose ten more my numbers and heart would be doing great.  It is one of my biggest fears that my body won’t stay strong and I could end up in serious trouble.  I know that if I keep working and keep going that one day I am going to make this goal.  I am not a quitter and no I won’t settle so I am picking up my self by the bootstraps rather than sulk I am finding new ways to get to where I want to be.

Are there times you feel that you have tried everything and nothing is working out.  No matter how hard you are working to reach that goal it either isn’t budging, or you find yourself falling behind.  Here are some ways to stay strong and not give in to the slippery slope when your goals don’t budge.

Start Slow
Make sure the goal that you want to attain isn’t going to overpower you at the beginning. Goals should start small and then work your way up the ladder. If you set them too high and it doesn’t work out the way you want it to you will be disappointed.

Don’t Meet Others Expectations
The only important person in setting your goals is you and don’t let anyone tell you that you are not hitting the mark. You can have a support system but make sure that is what they are there to do is support. Don’t sabotage yourself with those that don’t want you to succeed.

Be Happy With The Little Things.
If you reach a micro goal, celebrate it and know that you are getting closer to the bigger picture. The best things in life are not just handed over, and there will be lots of work to do so make sure to celebrate all the little successes along the way.

Don’t Lose Sight of What Matters
If you miss your goal, don’t give up. Realize that the minor setback is not the end of the world and re-evaluate what the big picture is, and keep going. You have come so far, and sometimes we work so hard, and it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere, and we want to quit altogether. When this happens, make sure to take some time to look at your options and evaluate what you are going to do next to make it happen.

Keep Track of What You Have Done
The best way to keep track is to write it down. Buy a nice notebook and keep track of the things you have accomplished and what is next on the list. keeping track will motivate you and show you all the progress you have made if you feel like your sinking.

Goals don’t happen overnight, and they are not meant to be easy. Take time to reflect on what you have done and how important it is that you even chose to work towards something. Know that you can and will keep climbing that mountain till you reach the top.



Do You Believe in Yourself Enough When Other’s Don’t and Follow Your Heart?

Believing in yourself is scary.  It means that you don’t care what others think and that you have the strength to overcome opposition.  That can be a hard thing to master, and when you do finally believe in yourself you can be free from the world, you knew that was holding you down.

Keep on Keep on.



Don’t Waste Time! Explore Your Passion and Create Your Own Fortune.

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #38

It’s time to explore all those new interests.


Learn what you love and love what you do.  Make this your mantra this month and focus on how to get there.

“Learn as though you would never be able to master it; hold it as though you would be in fear of losing it.”  ConfuciousBeFunky-collage


5 Ways to Stop Wasting Your Time Hating Someone

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Fortune Cooking Life Lessons #35
Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

Is there someone in your life that has wholly wronged you? Whether it be a family member, friend, or significant other something has happened that had created a fire inside you that you just can’t put out. I feel this is true for most people that one time or another we have come across the feelings of hate and discontent towards someone in our life. As time moves on we do move forward and these feelings will hide away for a time and every once in a while these feelings of anger that we had come creeping back to remind us of the knife we received in our back. But does hating this person help us in the end. If we stop to think about it hating takes a lot of time and effort on the part of the person that is angry. What if we could take that energy we have inside and put it to good use. Image all the awesome things we would be able to accomplish in our lives. Here are five ways to stop hating and use that energy for some good.

1. Don’t forgive for the person who hurt you forgive for yourself.
Forgiving someone who has hurt you is seriously a hard one to understand. When we learn about forgiveness, it is always about the other person but what we forget is that when we forgive those that have hurt us we are allowing ourselves to move on. The situation no longer controls how we feel or deal with that person and the control is lost. If we react to this person or situation negatively, it still has a hold of us if we move past it and forgive we are letting go.

2. We are all humans.
Humans are imperfect, and we will all make mistakes. Keep that in mind the next time someone does something that may hurt you. It is hard but what if the shoe was on the other foot. What if it was us that did the hurting. There will be individuals that don’t care about how people feel and know that you as a person can always do better regardless of how others may want to treat you.

3. Don’t bring up the past.
If you have completely moved on, you won’t be bringing it up anymore. Letting the situation go may take some time as time heals most wounds and when you are ready to move forward, you will be done reminiscing what happened. Moving forward also helps the person that has hurt you especially if they are seeking forgiveness because this shows you have completely forgiven them and moved on but if you keep rehashing what has been done there is unfinished business that needs to be addressed, and the problem never disappears.

4. Hating takes too much time and energy.
Hating someone takes up a lot of time and energy, and all it will do is exhaust you. A person can spend all day thinking about how much they hate someone but unfortunately, this waste of time and nothing will ever get accomplished. Instead of being angry and hateful take that energy and put it towards something that will make your life better.

5. Time will heal the wounds.
Time does heal wounds. Give yourself space from the person that has hurt you. Right now you need to process the hurt and taking a break can help you recover. Even if the relationship is unrepairable taking time off will help you to heal and find your peace in the situation rather than having to fight it all the time.

Being angry isn’t right for you or the people around you. Choose to do better and take that anger to a positive level. Forgive this person for yourself so that you can find your happiness again. Remember that human beings make mistakes and learn to let go of what happened. Don’t hate to long because it takes too much out of your life to do so and make sure to give yourself enough time to process what has happened.

If you are looking for a way to channel your negative energy, try meditation. It is a perfect way to relax your mind and spirit. A good forgiveness meditation is repeating the phrase ” The person I need to forgive is _______, and I forgive you for ________. Saying this phrase will help you put the situation in perspective and find happiness along your way.