5 Ways to Stop a Negative Conversation Before it Begins

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #2

Keep your goals away from the trolls.

Do you ever find yourself dealing with people who aren’t happy unless they or you are miserable?  You may have an idea that you may want to try and the person you are talking to shuts it down.  Maybe you received a promotion or accomplished a personal goal and you share it and they act like it’s no big deal. Everyone has had these conversations in their life and we may or may have not dealt with these circumstances the best way. If we are lucky we can put an end to these situations before they even begin with these 5 steps.

Know what your hot buttons are so that you don’t end up falling into the trap. 

Many times these situations are placed before us to get a reaction.  If you are dealing with someone who says or does something the best way to handle the conversation is to not react negatively.  if someone is trying to hit your hot button keep in mind that you have control of what you say and do and even though you don’t like what is being said you not letting the other person win.

 

Change the subject to neutral.

Changing the subject in a not so positive conversation takes the light off the resentment and puts it in a different light.  You could even ask how the other person is doing and what they have been up to.  More than likely they will love the idea of filling you in on themselves.

 

“Thanks for your input I will consider it.”

Rather than getting into an argument over what is being said and done end the conversation by thanking them for their input and that you will consider all the options.  Being polite when things aren’t always the most friendly makes it hard for the other person to continue the toxic conversation.  You are ahead if you keep it under control.

 

There may be times you can avoid it altogether.

If you’re at a party or a social situation simply avoiding the one who wants to start trouble will be a way to keep things under control.  You don’t have to talk or visit with someone who wants to send shade your way.  A simple hello or wave is just fine and keeping yourself busy will keep the contact to a minimum.

 

Be confident.

You know who you are and the more confidence you have around those that might think less of you the better your outcome will be.  You don’t have to think you are holier than thou but have confidence in your decisions and actions.  Many times this intimidates the person who wants to shut you down.

There are times in life where we have to deal with those people who don’t have our best interest at heart.  It is easier to handle these situations when we are able to keep control of what is being said and done during the interaction.  When you know how to deal with the trolls these social situations get a whole lot easier.

 

 

 

5 Most Effective Ways to Overcome Worry

Can you control how much you worry about something?

 

Life Lesson Fortune #1

Instead of worrying and agonizing, move ahead constructively.

 

How many times have you worried about something so much it affects every minute of your waking hour?  Being worried about something can create so much extra stress in our daily lives.  Whether it being late on a bill,  having to study for a major exam or your relationship is on rocky territory. The feeling of being out of control can make it so that we lose our sanity.  Here are 5 ways to be worry free and not a worry wart.

Mindfulness-  All I can say is practice this and feel all the worry you once experienced feel a little lighter.   Mindfulness allows you to relax, take a moment not to think and give your body some clarity.  A great exercise is to take a slow deep breathe in and think of the word calm, and a slow deep breather out saying the word peace.  Allow your body to be calm and let it find some peace if only for a few minutes.

 

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Get Rid of The All or Nothing Attitude- Sometimes we have to just admit there will be no straightforward answer to our problems. Sometimes we need to think outside the box and decipher if there is a solution. Be able to sit down and look for other answers you might even find one better than your original idea.

Focus on What is Positive- I feel like this can be really hard to do in certain situations. Being able to see the positive in any situation can give a person directly in their life. It tells that person that even in the darkest of times there will always be a little light.

 

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Slow Down- Nowadays the world is rushing. many problems can be created by not being able to slow down and take time with something. If we don’t stop and think about issues we deal with we may not make the best choice. The next time a problem arises take a break and think about all the outcomes. The longer you take time to look at all solutions the better your choices will be.

 

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Talk it out- Getting things out in the open can not only help you but will also help others around you. Your worry may be causing you to be short with your family or friends. You might have worry about someone close to you and by being able to discuss these things will build trust in your relationship. Talk it out and feel the weight of all your worry disappear.