What to do With Your Goals When the Climb Never Seems to End

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #42

“Giving up on your goal because of one set back is like slashing your other three tires because you have one flat.”  Askideas.com

Not being able to crush those goals rings true in so many ways.  I recently have been working extremely hard on my body.  I want to lose a little more weight and keep my body in great shape.  I have been battling this most of my adult life, and as I get older, I know how important it is to be healthy. So I work hard to give my body the best by eating healthy and working out.  I am not losing weight to fit into the bikini for summer. I want to lose weight because I have had some heart challenges. The last seven years has been my wake up call, and I am trying my best to take care of myself.

I have hit some excellent goals and have managed to lose 25 pounds in the last five years very slowly but have kept all the weight off.  I am stronger than I have ever been even in my most active years.  I am happy where I am going, but I could lose ten more pounds to hit goal.  Being able to beat this goal has been a struggle to get those last 10, and I keep working my hardest.  I feel good and of course, look like I am perfectly healthy but if I lose ten more my numbers and heart would be doing great.  It is one of my biggest fears that my body won’t stay strong and I could end up in serious trouble.  I know that if I keep working and keep going that one day I am going to make this goal.  I am not a quitter and no I won’t settle so I am picking up my self by the bootstraps rather than sulk I am finding new ways to get to where I want to be.

Are there times you feel that you have tried everything and nothing is working out.  No matter how hard you are working to reach that goal it either isn’t budging, or you find yourself falling behind.  Here are some ways to stay strong and not give in to the slippery slope when your goals don’t budge.

Start Slow
Make sure the goal that you want to attain isn’t going to overpower you at the beginning. Goals should start small and then work your way up the ladder. If you set them too high and it doesn’t work out the way you want it to you will be disappointed.

Don’t Meet Others Expectations
The only important person in setting your goals is you and don’t let anyone tell you that you are not hitting the mark. You can have a support system but make sure that is what they are there to do is support. Don’t sabotage yourself with those that don’t want you to succeed.

Be Happy With The Little Things.
If you reach a micro goal, celebrate it and know that you are getting closer to the bigger picture. The best things in life are not just handed over, and there will be lots of work to do so make sure to celebrate all the little successes along the way.

Don’t Lose Sight of What Matters
If you miss your goal, don’t give up. Realize that the minor setback is not the end of the world and re-evaluate what the big picture is, and keep going. You have come so far, and sometimes we work so hard, and it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere, and we want to quit altogether. When this happens, make sure to take some time to look at your options and evaluate what you are going to do next to make it happen.

Keep Track of What You Have Done
The best way to keep track is to write it down. Buy a nice notebook and keep track of the things you have accomplished and what is next on the list. keeping track will motivate you and show you all the progress you have made if you feel like your sinking.

Goals don’t happen overnight, and they are not meant to be easy. Take time to reflect on what you have done and how important it is that you even chose to work towards something. Know that you can and will keep climbing that mountain till you reach the top.

 

 

5 Ways to Stop a Negative Conversation Before it Begins

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #2

Keep your goals away from the trolls.

Do you ever find yourself dealing with people who aren’t happy unless they or you are miserable?  You may have an idea that you may want to try and the person you are talking to shuts it down.  Maybe you received a promotion or accomplished a personal goal and you share it and they act like it’s no big deal. Everyone has had these conversations in their life and we may or may have not dealt with these circumstances the best way. If we are lucky we can put an end to these situations before they even begin with these 5 steps.

Know what your hot buttons are so that you don’t end up falling into the trap. 

Many times these situations are placed before us to get a reaction.  If you are dealing with someone who says or does something the best way to handle the conversation is to not react negatively.  if someone is trying to hit your hot button keep in mind that you have control of what you say and do and even though you don’t like what is being said you not letting the other person win.

 

Change the subject to neutral.

Changing the subject in a not so positive conversation takes the light off the resentment and puts it in a different light.  You could even ask how the other person is doing and what they have been up to.  More than likely they will love the idea of filling you in on themselves.

 

“Thanks for your input I will consider it.”

Rather than getting into an argument over what is being said and done end the conversation by thanking them for their input and that you will consider all the options.  Being polite when things aren’t always the most friendly makes it hard for the other person to continue the toxic conversation.  You are ahead if you keep it under control.

 

There may be times you can avoid it altogether.

If you’re at a party or a social situation simply avoiding the one who wants to start trouble will be a way to keep things under control.  You don’t have to talk or visit with someone who wants to send shade your way.  A simple hello or wave is just fine and keeping yourself busy will keep the contact to a minimum.

 

Be confident.

You know who you are and the more confidence you have around those that might think less of you the better your outcome will be.  You don’t have to think you are holier than thou but have confidence in your decisions and actions.  Many times this intimidates the person who wants to shut you down.

There are times in life where we have to deal with those people who don’t have our best interest at heart.  It is easier to handle these situations when we are able to keep control of what is being said and done during the interaction.  When you know how to deal with the trolls these social situations get a whole lot easier.

 

 

 

5 Most Effective Ways to Overcome Worry

Can you control how much you worry about something?

 

Life Lesson Fortune #1

Instead of worrying and agonizing, move ahead constructively.

 

How many times have you worried about something so much it affects every minute of your waking hour?  Being worried about something can create so much extra stress in our daily lives.  Whether it being late on a bill,  having to study for a major exam or your relationship is on rocky territory. The feeling of being out of control can make it so that we lose our sanity.  Here are 5 ways to be worry free and not a worry wart.

Mindfulness-  All I can say is practice this and feel all the worry you once experienced feel a little lighter.   Mindfulness allows you to relax, take a moment not to think and give your body some clarity.  A great exercise is to take a slow deep breathe in and think of the word calm, and a slow deep breather out saying the word peace.  Allow your body to be calm and let it find some peace if only for a few minutes.

 

Buddha

 

Get Rid of The All or Nothing Attitude- Sometimes we have to just admit there will be no straightforward answer to our problems. Sometimes we need to think outside the box and decipher if there is a solution. Be able to sit down and look for other answers you might even find one better than your original idea.

Focus on What is Positive- I feel like this can be really hard to do in certain situations. Being able to see the positive in any situation can give a person directly in their life. It tells that person that even in the darkest of times there will always be a little light.

 

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Slow Down- Nowadays the world is rushing. many problems can be created by not being able to slow down and take time with something. If we don’t stop and think about issues we deal with we may not make the best choice. The next time a problem arises take a break and think about all the outcomes. The longer you take time to look at all solutions the better your choices will be.

 

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Talk it out- Getting things out in the open can not only help you but will also help others around you. Your worry may be causing you to be short with your family or friends. You might have worry about someone close to you and by being able to discuss these things will build trust in your relationship. Talk it out and feel the weight of all your worry disappear.