Know Your Strength and Believe in Yourself Even When the World Doesn’t.

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #41

Know and believe in yourself, and what others think won’t disturb you. 

 

“You are worthy of all the love in the world” Couples and love quotes

“See colors in life”

“People should fall in love with their eyes closed”  Andy Warhol

“What makes you different make you beautiful”

” If you find someone you love in your life, then hang on to that love.” Princess Diana

“Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid of standing still.” Chinese Proverb

“Self-respect permeates every aspect of your life.”  Joe Clark

“Never forget how wildly capable you are”

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” Maya Angelou

 

 

Do You Believe in Yourself Enough When Other’s Don’t and Follow Your Heart?

Believing in yourself is scary.  It means that you don’t care what others think and that you have the strength to overcome opposition.  That can be a hard thing to master, and when you do finally believe in yourself you can be free from the world, you knew that was holding you down.

Keep on Keep on.

 

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5 Reasons Why Love is Necessary For Our Lives

Is love necessary to your daily life?

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #25

Love is as necessary to human beings as food and shelter. 

 

What is love and why do we need it as human beings?  I feel that love is a hard thing to describe and can’t be pinned down to one description. If I were to define the word love, I would say that it is a way that we act and feel toward things and people that we value. Love is sacrificial, and we will put others needs above ours, and not expect anything in return.  Being able to love yourself is just as important as loving others, and if you don’t enjoy yourself, you may not be able to give others love in return. Love is a complicated emotion, and it helps to truly understand what love is rather than what we think it should be. Here are 5 reasons why love is necessary for our lives and how to get the fullest amount of respect out of the relationships we deal with every day.

1. There is a Need to Love

We have heard in the past that there is a need to be loved but how many of us have heard that there is just a greater need to love someone else.  I often look at myself and think yes I am that person that pours her love into everyone else.  I have a husband and two kids that I fawn over and love on constantly. Sometimes I will admit that I will set myself aside and focus entirely on them.  I have gotten better at making a healthy balance out of loving my family but there for a while that was all I did was our my heart and soul into my family unit.  The reason I did this was that I felt the need to love and caring for them brought me life’s brightest moments.  Making these people in my life happy brought me happiness, and it does to this day.  Loving those around us gives us a sense of purpose to our lives. One way to show acts of love randomly is by performing small acts of kindness.  Kindness goes far in our daily dealings with our fellow man and doesn’t have to be anything extraordinary.  A simple hello to a stranger walking past or a small conversation with a grocery store cashier will brighten there day, and you will feel the warm fuzzies start to flourish which will make your day a little brighter as well.

2. Discover One’s Self

Love opens the door to self-discovery.  I think back on the times that I was not comfortable with who I was and most of these times my life was missing the critical element that someone cared.  When you are being loved and loving someone in return, you tend to let go of your insecurities that you once dreaded would come out to the world.  When someone truly loves you, they don’t care what your imperfections are and that gives you the freedom to find out what makes you amazing.  You no longer have to hide and worry instead it turns your focus on your life and what you want to accomplish.  When you are loved by another, this builds your strength to achieve dreams and futures.

3. Love Teaches us Lessons

We will not learn unless we do. Love can teach us the lesson of happiness as well as lessons of heartache.  Even though there will be times that will bring us to our core these life lessons are here to make us stronger and keep us from making the same mistakes.  Love can teach us the experience of a genuine feeling of wanting to do better.  Taking away the thinking of ourselves and being able to consider someone else’s well being.

4. Builds Future

It is essential to making a strong foundation for a home the same goes for creating a strong foundation for a relationship. Being able to love and be loved grows and gets stronger. To find a person that wants to work and build a relationship will put you both on the road to success because you will both work at making the future ahead brighter.

5.  Love is Healing

The best thing about love is the ability to heal.  Love heals a broken heart and spirit.  Think about how you felt when you have been your saddest, and someone sat there and just held you?  How did you feel at that time?  Giving something as simple as a hug shows that there is genuine care that can calm us even in the roughest of storms.

I know there are some out there that don’t think love is a necessity to live.  When I sit back and look at the things in my life that made me happiest, it all involves situations of love. We can show love by participating in simple acts of kindness. We will learn to love others and ourselves, and by doing this, we will know self-love.  Relationships teach us as we go along and without some sort of love, we would not have an opportunity to learn.  We can build our future with another person who wants to help us develop and grow.  There is no greater healing than that of love.

 

 

 

 

4 Things You Need to Know About Unreturned Love

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #24
To love and be loved are blessings.

People need to be loved. Love brings happiness and contentment into our lives. What happens if we are in a relationship where we love but don’t seem to get the same in return? If you are feeling unloved here are four signs you may be in an unreturned love relationship.

1. Feeling Unappreciated
If you find yourself giving your partner 100% and you don’t get the same in return, it may be time to reexamine the situation. Many times I have heard that relationship are 50/50. I feel that for a healthy relationship each person should be able to give their fullest and not just half.

2. Feeling Used
Being used by someone is a horrible feeling, and no one should ever put up with being treated this way. Are they only bringing attention to you when it benefits them, and you are left feeling like a doormat give this relationship a boot and give yourself something better which you deserve?

3. Anxiety
If when in the relationship an instant wave of anxiety brushes over you like the cloud of doom causing you to feel as though you are plummeting over a cliff this is a severe problem that needs to address. To be this anxious over someone and having to deal with them is unhealthy and if it cannot change for the better more than likely, you have no business trying to build this relationship.

4. You are continually initiating contact.
Don’t beg for attention; it is not something you have to do. There are many others out in this world that value who you are and would love to dote on you any minute of the day. Don’t continually try to engage with someone that not only will bring you down by not giving back but may be giving you adverse reactions in return.

Now that we talked about some signs of unreturned love here are some things that can help you in deciding if you need to make a change.

 

 

All you need is love

1. Accept this will not change
Accept that this relationship may not be healthy for you or your partner. Neither one of you deserves to be unhappy and by getting on with your lives your giving each other a chance for a healthy happy relationship.

2. Don’t take it personally
When someone says, it’s not you it’s me they are probably right. It may not be you at all that is causing this person to show unreturned love so don’t go around blaming yourself for someone else’s actions.

3. Distance Yourself
When you decide to walk away make sure to keep the distance and focus on your healing so that you don’t feel the need to return to the relationship. You won’t be able to move on if the person you are moving away from is still around.

4. Move On
Don’t sit in your room thinking about all the things you could have done to repair this relationship. If it were an unloved relationship nothing you could have done would have changed anything. Take some time to grieve and then give yourself the pass to move on in your life. Your future is waiting.

Not only is an unloved relationship unhealthy but it’s an exhausting way to live. Value yourself enough to know that you are worth every minute and that it is ok to walk away and find something else that will value you in return.

Beauty Inspiration

What does beautiful mean to you?

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #8
There is no reference for beauty.

What does it mean to be beautiful? When I first picked this piece of paper out of my jar, I wasn’t sure I was going to be able to write about this. My first thought was when I read this was the phrase “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” because many things can be beautiful. It is not just about physical appearance, and many things around us can be considered attractive. There is also more to beauty than just what you see on the outside sometimes inner beauty can outshine what we see on the surface.
Growing up I always considered beauty to be nothing but a physical attribute. I did not find myself a beauty growing up. I was a small red-haired freckle-faced awkward child who shied away from most of the world. Many kids gave me tons of havoc for those physical attributes, so I considered those things a negative trait that I was cursed with. Thinking this, of course, was far from the truth. No one around me ever said I was beautiful so I grew up thinking there wasn’t much to me. With this thought process came lots of uphill battles and it took me a very long time to know and understood what real beauty meant. As I have come along in my life, I have genuinely found a meaning to what I feel beauty is, and I embrace these things every day.
1. Beauty is where I live.
I love where I live. I live in Fort Collins Colorado and this by far is one of the most beautiful places I have ever lived. I love being close to the mountains and being able to take in what is around me. I like to be able to hike a trail to the top and take in the fresh mountain air and the freedom of the wide open spaces. To be able to get to the top and sit and experience a quiet that gives me the most peace and calm.
Take a look around you and recognize the beauty that surrounds you. Everyone’s vision of beauty is different and to be able to stop for a moment and look at the place in which you live and recognize all the things that are around you that make you who you are and take a moment to appreciate these places.
2. Relationships with special people are beautiful.
I adore my relationship with my husband. He is my rock, my support, and best friend. If it were not for him to show me real beauty, I would not be where I am today. Being able to share life with those that are close to you is a beautiful thing. With those we love we get to experience some of the best parts of being.
I feel one of the ways to find beauty in a relationship is to look past the faults of our relationships. Nothing is perfect, and it takes lots of work to make it happen, but once we get past the thinking that everything should be perfect and finding fault we then get to appreciate the ones around us.
When a seed is planted, it needs care and time to grow. Once the seed has sprouted, it then turns into a beautiful flower. We can’t expect our relationships to be beautiful overnight. Just like flowers our relationships need nurturing to grow and become what we have always wanted.
3. My kids are beautiful.
I don’t want to brag, but I do believe I have some beautiful kids. Not just because they are cute but because they are beautiful human beings. I love to watch them grow and learn. Being able to teach them and help them along their path I feel has been my most significant purpose in life.
I want my kids to have a good life. I want them to be able to learn the things that I did not have the chance to learn right away. I want them to know that they are beautiful outside as well as inside and to take those traits with them in their lives. I want them to appreciate the world around them and find beauty in all things. For them to help make this world a more beautiful place would be something I would always hold in my heart.

4. I am beautiful.
A few years ago these words would never venture out of my mouth, and this was something that was hard for me to say, but I didn’t fully understand what that statement meant. One thing that I have learned through all my trials and tribulations is that you can not love others unless you like yourself. Learning to love myself was one of the biggest lessons that I have ever had to learn. I realized a few years ago that I was not doing what I needed to do as a wife, mother, and individual all because I lacked love for myself. I decided to dig deep and reevaluate my life, my upbringing and teach myself that I am worth it. I have worked very hard to get to this point, but I can honestly say that I do love who I have become. I love myself enough to be happy even with my flaws and be able to be the mom and wife that I need to be.
I love myself enough to take care of myself and work hard every day to let that freckled- face red- haired girl know she is beautiful and worth every minute of the day.
There is no reference to beauty. Beauty is not something that can be labeled. We are all different, and all of us have different qualities that add to the beauty of the world. Go out today and find the beauty that surrounds you. Not only is beauty around you but take a look at yourself and know that you are beautiful. There will be days when you will struggle but understand that the days that bring you down the most are the days that bring you strength. Make your beauty your inspiration.