Make Your Goals Realistic and Change the Way You live.

This month I wanted to take some time and focus on a little self-care.  I used to think that self-care was not something I deserved and rarely did I take the time to slow down and heal myself.  This month I wanted to focus on some self-love and will be posting the whole month of April on way’s to make changes that will positively influence our lives.

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #41 

“Vision without action is a daydream.  Action without vision is a nightmare.”  Japanese Proverb

The first focus this month is on goals.  Goals are great because they take us to another place.  We don’t have to feel like we are stuck if we have goals to work towards.  Life is always throwing curve balls, and goals are there to catch those curve balls and get us closer to where we want to be.

This month take some time to track your goals.  These goals can be significant, or they can be small tack them and write them down.  Post notes to remind you of what you are working on and what you want in the end.  Remember to be honest with yourself, and if you don’t hit that goal, you want to quit.  Pick up where you left off and keep going.

Keep Your Cool 100% Better with These 6 Steps

We have all been in a situation where we feel as though we will have a massive volcanic meltdown. Unfortunately, there are times that we actually do explode and may not behave or say these things we should. These times are tricky and it is always best to take the higher road when dealing with opposition. Try these 6 steps the next time you feel like you are about to blow your top.

1.  Breathe
When was the last time you took a nice long slow inhale and a nice slow exhale? Not only will breathing relax your last nerves giving yourself some time to breathe will improve your health overall. An exercise I practice is to breathe in through the nose nice and slow for 4 seconds and out for seven seconds through the mouth. I can feel my body calm down and it gives me time to think about what just happened.



2. Time Out isn’t Just for Kids
Timeouts are awesome when you find your self in a confrontation. Sometimes you just need a break from the situation to think through what just happened and the best way to deal with the problem. Taking timeouts will save you in many situations and yes there will be times that this might not be an option but if you can do your best to step away and let yourself cool down.

3. Go to a Happy Place
Along with a timeout make sure to go to a place that brings you happiness. This can be any place like a park or maybe even your favorite little shop. Just give yourself time to reevaluate the situation. Happy environments bring happy energy.

4. If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say Don’t Say it at All
This is a hard one especially for me. I have had to really try and practice this very valuable lesson. Words hurt and can cause so much more turmoil than if you were never to speak, to begin with. Make sure to think about what you say and choose your words wisely.

5. People Are Human And so Are You
We are all humans and we all make mistakes. If you find yourself dealing with a situation that makes you react in a way that is not most pleasing make sure to apologize for your part. Own it and move forward knowing that this is a valuable lesson for the future. If someone has wronged you and did not handle their situation like they should make sure to forgive them. This helps you by not holding toxic resentment and it helps them by knowing that they can learn from their mistake and move on making better choices in the future.

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6. Go For a Walk
Walks are wonderful things. They give you fresh air and exercise which is fantastic for the body. Walks can give you the time to think about what is important to you and help you make good judgments. The next time you find yourself going out of control walk out the door and soak in some fresh air and burn off some of that steam.

Life and interactions are not always easy. There are many times in our lives we find ourselves dealing with unpleasant situations. Instead of doing or saying something we will have to apologize for or regret later take some time and know that by doing this you are saving yourself and others from unnecessary distress.

Understanding Your Learning Style

Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #13

Learning is a treasure which occompanies us anywhere.


There are so many ways to learn. Some of us prefer to learn through visualizing while others prefer to learn through instruction that is given to us. Not one learning style works for everyone, and sometimes more than one method can benefit the way we understand things. Being able to understand which style works best for our individual needs will help us further our understanding. Everywhere we go we can usually learn something new. Wheather we are traveling to another country and need to be able to understand the language or giving a presentation at work the next day if we know how to learn our best we will go a lot further down the road. Here are seven different learning styles to help you decide which is the best way you can get your best-educating experience.

1. The Visual Learner
Do you love to read and can remember what you have learned? Then this style may work best for you. Visual learners do just that they visualize. The visual learner is also known as a spatial learner. Visual learning style studies by using vision and will be taking notes in class, and may sit in front of the classroom so that they can have the full visual experience. Many visual learners are good with faces and not so good with names. These individuals can give right directions and can read a map front, sideways, and backward. Maybe not exactly like that but pretty close. They tend to daydream and might be caught doodling when bored. An excellent way for you to learn is to take notes, make outlines and graphs.

2. The Verbal Learner
Verbal learners do well when they write or are spoken too. It is easy for a verbal learner to express themselves. When these types were kids, they loved tongue twisters and rhymes. Many times, if there is a word that someone cannot think of a verbal learner, will get it for you. Lists are great ways for these types, and they will be excellent spellers. In a group setting, they may carry a recorder to tape what they need to know and often they will talk to themselves to solve problems. Rhythm and music are great for verbal learners as they find this very satisfying. Good study habits for verbal learners are reading notes out loud and repetition. Also reading textbooks or lessons are an excellent way for them to understand the concept.

3. The Aural Learner
Aurel learners learn best with a combination of listening, speaking, and hearing. Sound and music are very beneficial to these types. Many times the aural learner will be excellent singers and musicians. They must be able to hear what is being said and the primary focus for them is sound. When they are reading, they tend to have sound in the background. Aural learners make excellent storytellers. There will be times when they will come up with solutions to problems by talking through the situation. The best way for an aural to learn is using rhyming and mnemonics to help with memory. Also, it is beneficial for them to record lessons and review them frequently.

4. The Physical Learner
A physical learner uses their hands and bodies. They love to touch. Kids and babies are great physical learners. Many times physical learners will be involved in sports and exercise. They tend to like textures and love to work with their hands. Physical learners will use body language to express themselves. An excellent career to look into for a physical learner is Culinary Arts. My husband is a hands-on type and is most happy when he is cooking. He went to Culinary School and enjoyed it and excelled at the curriculum. The best way for a physical learner to study is by using objects such as flashcards to help with memory.

5. The Logical Learner
A logical learner uses reason to solve problems. They will use numbers and are comfortable with them. This type will also do a lot with cause and effect. Many times they are mathematical and enjoy doing these activities. Patterns are fun for the logical learner, and they may perform complicated calculations. These people would enjoy dealing with targets and budgets. Most times they create agendas and to do lists. They may even pick up on logic weaknesses and point them out. The best way for the logic learner to understand is by adding lots of detail to learning. They study vital points and analyze. Breaking down more substantial material to more precise content is an easy way for the logic learner to grasp the concept.

6. The Social Learner
The social learner is the social butterfly of the learning style. They love the interaction with others and are excellent communicators. They can communicate in verbal and nonverbal forms effectively. People like to listen to the social learner, and the social learner will listen to those around them and accept other points of view. A social learner will bounce ideas off of those around them and likes to work through problems in a group setting. They thrive on teamwork and enjoy team sports. A social learner gets their energy from those around them. The best way for a social learner to study is in a group atmosphere. They also will do well with other people quizzing them on their content.

After learning about all the different learning styles, I concluded that I am mostly a verbal learner. I had a few traits in other categories but found that I do the best with language. I love to write, read, and spell and even remember myself as a child reciting all those nursery rhymes and tongue twisters hours on end. I am a list person and make them every day. By learning what kind of learning style benefits me, I feel this will take my knowledge journey to a new level, and I can accomplish more knowing what fits me best.

Being able to learn something is a treasure. We get to experience something new and take it with us wherever we go. Understanding our style of learning can take us to another level that we may not have had otherwise. Find out what learning style works best for you and use it to your best advantage.