Life Lesson Fortune
Instead of worrying and agonizing, move ahead constructively.
Each week I have decided to take one of our papers from our fortune cookie collection and try and use it in my life. By doing this, I hope to be able to create good, helpful habits that may not have been and also be able to help those around me. Reading this fortune gave me quite a laugh when I reached into our glass jar and read what was on the paper. As I read the sentence, I could not help but think yep this is a sign as I do struggle with worry and yes I do agonize over it. I focused on this particular paper for one week, and every time I worried I said to myself “no worries, move forward,” and the results were terrific.
I have been a chronic worrywart most of my life. As a child, I worried about everything. I feared so much that it created intense anxiety in me that raged like a Tasmanian devil. Not to say that some of my worries were not valid. Many of the concerns I had growing up were pretty convincing and in all honesty, they were fears that I should have never had to experience. As I grew, my worries continued, and so did the anxiety. I felt a need to control everything around me because I thought that if I could manage all things that my worries would end. In most cases, these worries never ended they just kept growing. My worrying, in all honesty, made me sick. The concern would keep me trapped, and I could not do the things that maybe I wanted to do.
Over the last few years, I have gotten better at not being so concerned about everything but every once in a while my worries would get the best of me. So when I reached in the jar and pulled out this paper, I thought “Well I guess it’s time that I conquer the one thing that has to held me back, and maybe I will be able to vanquish the worry monster.”
I began my week with going about my business as usual with the exception that I began to worry I made myself repeat the phrase “No worries move forward.” I have to admit that I used this phrase probably ten times just in the morning on the first day. One thing I began to notice is that I worry an awful lot and most of the things that were so concerning to me in all actuality were so small. I am a stay at home mom with two kids that I homeschool, and just on that very first morning, I had a list of concerns. I had to take a look at what I was worried about and ask myself “Is this a valid concern?” and most of the time no it was not. It was me trying to control every little instance of that morning. That was the first time I ever acknowledged that I should probably chill out a bit. As the week progressed I kept practicing my new phrase with anything and everything that came up that would cause me to go into fight or flight mode, and just saying my little phrase created a calm that for once instead of the worry controlling me I was controlling how I dealt with the situation.
I noticed that even though my days are not always the way I want them it is ok. I am still here, and life will still go on. I never looked at life that way, and it was like I saw things in a different light. This way of thinking gave me the freedom to take a situation no matter how stressful it may be and I could decide what I wanted to do with it. I spent my whole life trying to control the uncontrollable and I now I finally had a say in how I was going to react, and it worked.
Instead of worrying if my kids were getting their chores done before school, I’d tell myself my phrase, and we would catch up in the afternoon. I began to notice that the kids started doing their chores in the morning because they wanted to be able to spend time with their friends. I didn’t have to fight this one as much anymore. Rather than me nag and worry if it was going to get done I picked my battle and let them figure it out. If there was something that was not going as planned I would immediately repeat my phrase and let it go and move on to the next task and it was ok because life still went on and everything was fine and in some cases better then if it would have gone with the original plan.
The worry that stemmed from my childhood had carried into my adulthood, and I did not know how to deal with it. I decided that this was one thing that was holding me back and it took a tiny white piece of paper to get me to see it. Don’t get me wrong there is still time I get a little overzealous but now those times are far and few. I continue to use my phrase whenever I feel the urge to go back to my old ways, and it saves me anytime and anywhere. I can honestly say that I am no longer a worry wart, instead, I am someone who can control the worry that comes my way.