Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #30
It’s important to you that money not be important.
How much do I value money? This is a question that I must sit and ponder because I have lived without money and I have lived with money. Money is nice to have when it comes to surviving and being able to take care of myself but it is also valuable to not have too much money and not be able to use it wisely.
I grew up with very little money. I was the poor kid at my school and it always seemed as though there was never enough money. I was also never taught to save money or spend my money wisely. As an adult, I have learned very hard lessons about money and can honestly say I am in a good place because of those hard lessons that have involved money in the past. Even though I do value money and like to be able to have money around me I try my best to not let it get to my head. The best way to not let my money control my life instead of focusing on controlling where my money goes is to focus on those things that don’t involve money. The money will always come and go but these 5 things will always be something I can value more than money.
1. Life Experiences.
I have had the joy of having some great life experiences that money could never buy. Most of my experiences have happened with my husband and my kids. I am truly grateful for these moments and these experiences teach me that there is more to life than the amount of my paycheck.
2.Good Health of Yourself and For The Ones You Love.
This is truly priceless. I have had some health scares in the last 10 years and I am happy to say that I am in perfect health and doing well. I also can thank my lucky stars for the great health of the people that I love dearly. Sickness can be a very scary thing and be able to have the ones you care about healthy makes that want for more money not as important. Value good health because most of us take it for granted.
3. Being Self Sufficient
I love not being dependent on people and I have been this way most of my life. If you are able to get your finances together and get the debt paid down the less you will be dependent on others. Being financially independent gives you nothing but freedom and freedom is amazing.
4. Growing Into Who You Want to be.
instead of focusing on the money all the time take some time to find out who you are. I have done this the last 8 years after a huge financial collapse that my family faced and it has helped me grow into someone that I can be proud of and it has also helped me develop my relationships better. Instead of focusing on the money focus on how you want to live your life and who you want to be.
5. Being Thankful for What You Have.
This is a big deal. I was able to learn this lesson when my husband and I hit our rock bottom. I soon realized that even though I could not go do certain things or buy what I thought I wanted I did have a roof over my head and food on the table and when you don’t have enough money to live that makes all the difference in the world.
Money can make our lives easier this is true but at the same time if we are not able to respect the money we can also suffer. Live the life you want but don’t forget the important things that make life worth living.
Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #29
There is no security in life only opportunity.
When an opportunity arises, do you take it? I know that there were many times in my past where I was scared to take a chance and instead I held myself back. I soon began to realize that waiting around for the safety net was not going to get me where I wanted to be in life. Are you waiting for an opportunity to come knocking on your door? Instead of waiting here are ten ways you can grab yourself some opportunity today.
1. Challenge the can’t do attitude.
People who play it safe tend to have the I can’t do this attitude. Mostly out of fear of failing. All this will do is hold you back so instead of saying I can’t start replacing it with I can.
Vision is essential when getting what you want out of life. Vision keeps you focused and motivated to want more. Never lose sight of your what you want and work on it every day.
3. Commit to change.
Commit to making a change in your life. The difference does not have to be drastic it can be as simple as getting up 20 minutes earlier every day to work on what you want to make that change. Once you commit everything you are working on becomes more of a reality.
4. Forgive and move on.
If you are harboring unhealthy feelings toward someone get rid of them now. Harboring these feelings is energy that is wasted and instead use it for the greater good. These feelings might be justified but they are not healthy for you and that is all these emotions are doing is hurting you. Forgiveness gives you peace.
5. Find what is holding you back and fix it.
If something is keeping you from getting what you want to find out how you can change the situation. Making small changes can make a big difference, and you will start to see the results you are looking for in your life.
6. Open your eyes.
Look around you, and sometimes the answer will be sitting right in front of you. Many times we go throughout our lives and don’t even bother to look around and see what is surrounding us but if we are more open to the things that are around us abundant opportunity will be found.
7. Learn something new.
Knowledge is power, and if we can take a little bit of our time to learn a new skill, then we are only making ourselves closer to what we want to obtain. You don’t just jump into something without learning a little about it first.
8. Help someone
You never know where things will lead if you help someone that is in need. Maybe this person has something they can help you with as well. Always take the time to lend a helping hand.
9. Work hard
Hard work pays off, and you should never have anything handed to you. If everything is given to you how do you expect to appreciate the things that come your way? Working hard for your goals keeps you grounded and more aware, so you don’t lose them.
This one can be hard for many of us and can create crazy anxiety but know that this can be a great asset and will benefit you in the end. Get out and socialize. Get to know new people and places many times the people you meet and the places you see can hold great opportunity options for what you are working so hard in life.
There is always an opportunity around every corner and today is the day so make sure to grab yours’s the next time it comes around.
Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #28
Think about your own mistakes rather than blame on other’s faults.
Why do people like to play the blame game? When I received this paper a couple of weeks ago, I sat back and took a long hard look at the times that I have played the blame game and what if anything it has done for me and the situations that I was involved. The answer to this question is that playing the blame game has done nothing constructive to any of the circumstances or relationships that were required. Nothing good has ever come out of me just blaming someone or something for any negativity in my life, and so I have decided that I am going to work hard at controlling how much of the blame game I will be playing and make sure that this game doesn’t negatively affect the things in my life.
Why does the blame game become so toxic? To blame someone or something is destructive rather than constructive. Blaming others rather than taking responsibility for your portion of the issue won’t help you or the situation better your circumstances. If you blame others for the problem than you don’t have to take responsibility for your part of the issue at hand and that will always be a recipe for disaster.
I grew up in an unstable home and for many years that haunted me with feelings of blame. I felt like I was a victim and was continually blaming the adults that allowed me to grow up in the situation I did. Last year I finally realized that it was time for me to stop blaming and take control of my life. One thing I noticed was when I was angry and condemning those that did not do their job I wasn’t happy. I could not find my joy, and all the blaming distracted me from moving forward in my life. I had to stop blaming even though some of these things were out of my control I had to let go and realize that we are here to make mistakes and hopefully learn from them.
There are four wrong ways of thinking when we are playing the blame game and all of these thoughts I had throughout my life.
1. Something is wrong, and I need to find blame in something or someone else for this situation. I feel this is a hard one to recognize because sometimes I feel like the responsibility can be justified. Even though the fault is warranted does not mean it is right to decide to place blame.
2. This person doesn’t deserve respect as a human being. I realize that we are all human and therefore we will all make mistakes and had to sink this one in when getting rid of my blame. The focus should not be about the person who has done me wrong so much as the person is controlling the way I think and act.
3. It is ok for me to treat those that hurt me poorly. I can do so anyway I want. There is no peace when you find yourself hating someone or something all the time. Letting go is the best medicine for this, and you will find happiness by knowing you have done your part.
4. I don’t have any responsibility for the problem, and if I admit this than I have to accept my responsibility and I would deserve the same treatment, I am giving. There are always two sides, and each side will have there own thoughts and actions. Even if you didn’t start the problem but the way you handled it was not the best. Life and people can be very frustrating and remember to take the higher road you will feel better in the end.
If you are experiencing conflict and blame here are ways to settle the blame game once and for all constructively.
1. Be willing to accept your part of the problem.
When there are disputes and problems, there is usually more than one creating the conflict. It is better to take the responsibility and try to make amends on your end. If the other side wants to accept their portion and help make things right tremendous and if not then you did your best.
2. Don’t lose respect for people.
There are some pretty cruddy people in this world, and they have made some horrible decisions in life. Being able to understand that you are not there judge and jury makes it easier to move forward. Always know that there is room for improvement.
3. Be more forgiving
I will be the first one to admit it is tough for me to forgive. I have grown up to be a person that has a shell of protection, and if I overlook, it weakens that shell. I started trying to excuse years ago, and I will say that it creates peace I never had growing up. All the anger and resentment I kept inside was a big green monster, and it kept me prisoner for quite some time. Only in the last few years have a finally been able to forgive and move forward. Forgiveness is hard, but it is well worth the work that goes into making it happen.
Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #27
To attain enlightenment is to be aware of your own Buddha.
Wouldn’t be nice to have an enlightened life? To be able to have the knowledge to choose what road you want to take in life. Many of us have had to travel our paths of life with little bumps along the way, and I for one consider life’s small cracks to be valuable lessons but wouldn’t it be nice if we could look at our lives and feel like we have taken the right road. Practice these 4 Buddha enlightening techniques and make your life a little more at peace.
Compassion makes the world a better place. Giving those around you empathy and understanding will provide you with peace. Imagine a time when you were the most compassionate and how did that make you feel? There are some in our lives that we may struggle to show compassion. I think these are the most important individuals to be compassionate too. When you have compassion rather than anger you will indeed feel good in your actions and decisions.
It is also essential to have self-compassion for our actions. Just like those we have had troubles with we too must remember that we are human and if we make a mistake acknowledge it and move forward with a softer heart. Do not torture your self because others choose to act a certain way. Work toward making yourself better even though your compassion may not be received. Practicing kindness will create some of the most profound relationships you will ever experience in life.
2. Be Awake
Make sure to be awake in every moment of your life. Be aware of what is around you and pay close attention. Being attentive will cause a person to slow down and recognize certain gratitude. One thing I truly enjoy is hiking, and I am lucky to be in an area where I can go anytime I want. I love to hike the backcountry and take everything in around me. Slowing down to look at the terrain and listen to the mountains has given me certain gratitude for the things around me that I might not have noticed if I continued the fast-paced lifestyle. When you are awake in your life, you will be able to experience joy in the little things that you once did not notice. If you are experiencing struggles being awake at the moment can even help you overcome these obstacles. Knowing the things around you will also help you welcome those teaching moments that will come along the way.
3. Food is Special
I bet you’re wondering why on earth would food have anything to do with enlightenment. Food gives us comfort and happiness. It can strengthen our bodies and can hurt our bodies. Creating a positive relationship with food can benefit your life, by providing you strength and overall well being. Cooking your food can give you respect for the food you eat. My kids were very picky eaters when they were younger, and when my husband and I started making our kids participate in cooking dinner, they became less picky and more grateful for what was in front of them for dinner. Another way to become more in tune with what you are eating is to grow a garden. Gardening takes work, and it is well worth the patience. The fresher, the better and you will feel great accomplishment knowing that this is something you brought to the table.
4. Remove 3 Poisons From Your Life
There are three poisons out there that can keep you from enlightening your life. Greed, hatred, and delusions can create a catastrophe for the person looking for something better. These three things cause nothing but pain and suffering. If you experience these things in your life make sure to recognize what happened and remove it from your life as fast as possible doing so you will be able to be more at peace. The longer these things stick around, the worse you will feel. Eliminating these types of feelings will also give you freedom, and you won’t feel confined to the negativity.
Being able to make little changes in your life can make the most significant difference. No one is perfect, and it is hard to attain perfection but one thing is, and that is we can work toward being better people.
Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #26
Virtue is its own reward
How important is it to have virtue in our lives? The definition of virtue states ” Behavior showing high moral standards” and when we think of the word virtue words such as ethics, excellence, and kindness might come to mind. These things are all important when dealing with each other and if we didn’t do these types of behaviors, our world would suffer.
Virtue can lead to happiness but can we experience too much virtue and let it get to our heads. Can too much virtue in our lives leave us with a sense of pride? Pride is okay to have, but it can also be a vice in life. I decided to take a look at three key aspects of my life that I hold to the highest value that would bring virtue into my life. When deciding to take a look at these three things that I think I have experienced virtue I wanted to see how those feelings of virtue affected me and if I feel at times I could have been too prideful. I can honestly answer yes I experienced a certain degree of virtue with each of these and I also have experienced being over prideful as well. Here are my three most significant things in my life where I have felt the most virtuous.
I always strived to have the family I never had a child. I had a family that was broken most of my life. Growing up I decided that I would work hard to make my family unit strong and that is something that I strive for today. I have an excellent, loving, and supportive husband who works hard for us in all things. He is my best friend, and I couldn’t ask for anything more. I have two fantastic kids who are entering the teen scene of their lives and have given me more smiles than a headache. That is not to say we haven’t had our trials because we have and we have always seemed to pick up the pieces and move forward. I am thankful for this opportunity, and yes there have been times when I forget that this is life and life is not perfect. Have I ever been too prideful when it comes to my family? I will be honest yes I have. There have been times I have judged and have thought I might be able to do it better. I will tell you that today I try and work very hard to not judge those around me. I feel like judgment can become a bad habit just and it takes time to break a habit once you have been doing it for a while. I am always telling myself to do better.
This one was a hard one when I really got to thinking about it. Way back in the day I used to be strongly religious. I went to church every Sunday and was a huge participant in teaching and helping our congregation. Unfortunately with this came the feeling of feeling overly special. I am not saying at all that church is wrong because I believe it entirely can be the best thing for a person. When I first went, it was the best thing for me. It took my life and changed it for the better. The problem was that when I was going and working so hard to be that perfect person I believe that my virtue was clouded with a bit of pride and entitlement. I don’t go to church anymore not because I don’t like it but because I wanted to focus on myself and my spirituality. I had to teach myself to be more humble by concentrating on what I was doing for those around me and that I can do great things in life without having to boast or feel like I need something in return.
Out of my siblings, I have been the one who got away. I was able to live a decent life, and they have had some pretty real struggles. One of the reasons I have made a path for myself is because I have chosen to not go down a road of addiction. Addiction is definitely a family disease, and I am a firm believer that it is learned through the environment and can quickly be passed down even through generations. I have worked hard to keep myself healthy and happy. Somedays are harder than others, but I work hard to make sure that I can give myself and my loved ones the life they deserve. One of the ways I have been able to succeed is by holding myself to a certain standard. I believe that virtue has helped me in achieving but in the past, I have not been the nicest to deal with when it comes to my siblings. I wanted them to experience the same happiness I have, and I have pushed too hard in certain circumstances. I have learned through the years that we all have our battles and the best way to help is to love and support when you can, this will go further than thinking you know what is best for those that are fighting their own battle.
Virtue can bring happiness to our lives, but it can also become a vice if it is not understood. Being able to experience great things is a beautiful feeling to have but make sure we do so with a humble heart. Remember that our actions can affect those around us and be aware of others helps us keep our pride in check. The next time you experience virtue in your life be happy and thankful that you received it and see if you can spread a little to someone else along the way.