Fortune Cookie Life Lesson #2
Keep your goals away from the trolls.
Do you ever find yourself dealing with people who aren’t happy unless they or you are miserable? You may have an idea that you may want to try and the person you are talking to shuts it down. Maybe you received a promotion or accomplished a personal goal and you share it and they act like it’s no big deal. Everyone has had these conversations in their life and we may or may have not dealt with these circumstances the best way. If we are lucky we can put an end to these situations before they even begin with these 5 steps.
Know what your hot buttons are so that you don’t end up falling into the trap.
Many times these situations are placed before us to get a reaction. If you are dealing with someone who says or does something the best way to handle the conversation is to not react negatively. if someone is trying to hit your hot button keep in mind that you have control of what you say and do and even though you don’t like what is being said you not letting the other person win.
Change the subject to neutral.
Changing the subject in a not so positive conversation takes the light off the resentment and puts it in a different light. You could even ask how the other person is doing and what they have been up to. More than likely they will love the idea of filling you in on themselves.
“Thanks for your input I will consider it.”
Rather than getting into an argument over what is being said and done end the conversation by thanking them for their input and that you will consider all the options. Being polite when things aren’t always the most friendly makes it hard for the other person to continue the toxic conversation. You are ahead if you keep it under control.
There may be times you can avoid it altogether.
If you’re at a party or a social situation simply avoiding the one who wants to start trouble will be a way to keep things under control. You don’t have to talk or visit with someone who wants to send shade your way. A simple hello or wave is just fine and keeping yourself busy will keep the contact to a minimum.
You know who you are and the more confidence you have around those that might think less of you the better your outcome will be. You don’t have to think you are holier than thou but have confidence in your decisions and actions. Many times this intimidates the person who wants to shut you down.
There are times in life where we have to deal with those people who don’t have our best interest at heart. It is easier to handle these situations when we are able to keep control of what is being said and done during the interaction. When you know how to deal with the trolls these social situations get a whole lot easier.